Language of Love

If you have ever read the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, you will understand what I am talking about very well.

If you haven’t, I want to share a little story and something to think about.

What if the world we live in is different than we thought it was?

If you know the saying, “There are two sides to every story, and then there is the truth,” this will make more sense.

Imagine that you have a strong belief about something, let’s say it’s about the way you should put on makeup.

You believe that to put on makeup you must first wash your face and clean all of your brushes before starting.

While you are at your friends house getting ready to go out, you see your friend doing their makeup without cleaning their face first or cleaning their brushes.

You gasp 😱 how could anyone live like this?! This is insane craziness.

First you might react without thinking and just say what comes to mind and share your strong belief about how to out on makeup.

You might also consider to realize that not everyone is the same and that your friend can do their makeup how they want.

But what if this is a belief that isn’t just affecting your friend but it also affects you too?

Maybe it’s a different belief about your religion or the best country to live in the world.

Either way, it is still a belief that you created and decided to agree upon at one point in your life.

Imagine this perspective when considering any conversation or debate or anything going on publicly today.

Instead of using our words to hurt and judge others, we can use them for love. Speaking the language of love not only brings us joy, but it is the truth. We may think our opinions and beliefs are the truth, but they are not. Truth is love and this is the highest frequency we can live on.

Remember that every story has 2 sides and then there is what actually happened. Our opinions and beliefs can easily misjudge a situation and see it completely different based on our views.

For example, American politics and many nations around the world have 2 opposing political parties that often have completely different viewpoints.

When you turn on the news for one side they are saying that it happened this way. Then you turn on the other news channel and they said the complete opposite. Which one is the truth? Neither.

Realize that these are all opinions and most of the time the information has been changed or mistold just like in a game of telephone.

Now if they are saying something obvious that is a fact and NOT an opinion, there is no debate about this. If the weather outside is raining, that’s not something to argue about.

However, when quoting public/private research studies, promoting businesses, or sharing about an event with unclear facts, it is always best to not believe so quickly.

First stop and think, does this align with my belief system? If yes, you will have an easy time trusting the information and won’t question it at all. If no, you may be quick to judge and assume that it is all lies regardless of the source or information.

Instead, we can observe how we feel and keep an open mind to listen to both perspectives. We can gather more information and do our own research, and decide to remain neutral on a topic regardless of our opinions.

Like this blogpost, you can take it or leave it, this is just my opinion and the story I’m sharing.

If you haven’t read the book yet, go check out The Four Agreements and let me know your thoughts below! Another great read by the same another is The Mastery of Love.